5 Secrets Every Woman Over 50 Should Know
By the time you reach the big “50” you feel like you should have it all together right? Everything you know got you this far and you’re doing ok… but there are a few things that might take you from “ok” to great.
We girls have to stick together so when we find things that give us our sanity back, allows our badass selves to shine and makes the world sit up and take notice every time our “feet hit the floor in the morning”, we gotta share!
“You Can’t Really Control Anything.”
We live our life making plans, carting the kids to their favorite activities, having “date night” with our significant other, “playing hard” to make our careers happen, never giving any deep thought to what the universe, God or whatever that ” force bigger than ourselves” has in store for us down the road. You can put it in a beautiful package with a big bow on it, but you can’t control it!
At one time or another life comes along and gives you the big smack down out of left field, and hands you something you never saw coming. It can come as a loss/death of some kind, a financial disaster, a personal illness or any other major life transition that knocks you off your center.
This happened to me in May of 2012 and my life has never been the same since. A personal loss that is hopefully temporary, slowly unfolded and over time I learned to accept the harsh reality. This life event brought with it immense heartache and years of coming to grips with the reality of what life had dealt me. Coming to the conclusion that I truly had lost control of the situation, I realize that life had mercifully placed one event after another on my path at a pace that I could accept and understand.
With this understanding came a feeling of gratitude and the grace to move on. I’ve learned to never give up hope, but simply have faith and trust in the flow of life and the path that I have chosen to walk.
Having an open heart and faith that life has your back, allows you to love beyond what you think you are capable of at the time. Even if you know you don’t have control of the outside world, you now know you have control of you and how you pick up the pieces and grow deeper in love, forgiveness and compassion.
This is a gift, say “thank you” and be the amazing soul you were born to be. Strong and fabulous……
“Create a Spiritual Practice That Speaks To You.”
Spirituality and cultivating a spiritual practice is a very personal thing. Taking the time to sit in quiet, searching your heart to notice what fells right, is a good place to begin.Taking this personal time to think about your spiritual self and what makes your heart feel alive will help you create a life of joy and peace.
Be open to things that feel authentically you. There are many alternative and holistic options to choose from, here are just a few to consider;
There are as many forms of mediation as there are individuals who meditate. Each person has their own reason(s) for meditating, to seek escape from the outside world, to deepen their knowledge of self or for others it is access to God.
Every form of meditation has its own adherents, but the real significance is the “ideal and purpose.” You may create a peaceful space with the most beautiful music permeating the air but this will do little to lift a selfish heart into the presence of the Creator. It is much more important to be free of hate, selfishness, anger, greed and malice that it is to be overly concerned about some “complex” form of meditation being observed.
Meditation is the practice of deeply focusing ones attention. The object of focus may be the breath, a mantra, a flame or sacred object.
Because we are bombarded with external stimuli we need to find a way to curtail the effects this stimuli has on our nervous systems. Meditation is that process. Meditation has become very mainstream and it’s benefits have been scientifically proven but its ancient spiritual roots will never be overshadowed by modern science.
Meditation enhances your life in many ways;
- Accept Life As It Is– giving up the need to control outcomes allows us to surrender to the “flow” and be at peace.
- Live In The NOW- The only time we truly have is the NOW. Being attached to the past keeps us stuck. Living in the future robs us of peace keeping our minds engaged, missing out on opportunities in the here and now.
- Know Yourself– As you progress along this path you start to accept yourself for who you truly are, “a spiritual being having a human experience.” You are less judgmental towards yourself and others, knowing everyone is walking their own path. The positive qualities you notice in yourself start to appear in your outer world and change the quality of your life.
- Enhances The Mind/Body Connection– You become in tune with how stress affects your body. The mind is a powerful tool for healing, which can work in harmony with your body or it can cause stress which leads to dis-ease. As the mind settles, the body opens and over time is receptive to the peace the mind creates, infusing it through all areas of the body.
- Enhances Personal Performance -Meditation can increase mental clarity and allow you to move closer to self-actualization.
Here are 5 tips to start your meditation practice:
- Find a space that is comfortable, free from distractions. Choose music that helps you relax and feel at peace.
- Make a commitment to the same time each day. Being consistent with the time of day helps you stay committed.
- Create a small altar with a few things that bring you joy or hold special meaning for you.
- Start by sitting for only 5 minutes. If you have never meditated or sat quietly for any length of time, 5 minutes is sufficient. As you become more relaxed you can increase your time accordingly.
- DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF. Allow the thoughts to move through your mind like a river. Never attaching to them, just observing. Find a focus, be in the breath, and just BE.
Yoga has had many definitions and interpretations over the centuries. One such meaning is “to come together or unite”. Another meaning is “to tie the strands of the mind together”. Once the mental strands come together to form an “intention” we are ready to begin the physical work.
A further meaning of the word yoga is “to attain what was previously unattainable”. The starting point for this thought is that there is something that we are today unable to do; when we find the means for bringing that desire to action, that step is YOGA.
Another aspect of yoga has to do with our actions. Yoga therefore also means acting in such a way that all of our attention is directed towards, the activity in which we are currently engaged.
Yoga attempts to create a state in which we are always present, really present, in every action and in every moment.
And lastly, a classic definition of yoga is “to be one with the Divine”– God, Universal Force, Divine Creator, Higher Self, or whatever you feel comfortable saying. Anything that brings us closer to understanding that there is a “power” higher than ourselves is Yoga.
Where and how does the practice of yoga begin? Should we always begin on a physical level? Not necessarily, it depends on your personal interests. There are many ways to practice yoga, and gradually the interest in one path will lead to another.
We can begin with practicing asanas (postures) to understand yoga through the experience of the body. We can begin with meditating to understand the experience of the mind or we can begin with pranayama (breath), feeling the breath as movement of our inner being. There are no prescriptions regarding where your practice begins.
The more we progress the more we become aware of the holistic nature of our being, realizing that we are made of body, mind, breath and much more.
Yoga is much more than postures, it is bringing our whole self in alignment, creating for yourself the desire to be more of who you are.
Take time to explore the different types of yoga practices and find one that resonates with you and your energy. Yoga is all about finding what works for you. Something that might work for one person might not feel comfortable for someone else.
Do you like something meditative and restorative or are you someone who enjoys a more robust form of movement? If you’re not ready to start with an asana practice, think about creating a breath work practice , it will give you the beginning foundation for your overall yoga practice.
If you’re just beginning check out these restorative meditative flows that can bring breath, body and focus into alignment easily and gently:
~Be One With Nature~
Take time to be outdoors. A simple walk to be in nature and observe all the gifts nature has bestowed upon us can help us feel grounded and safe. Water is a natural calming element, be it the ocean, a lake or a peaceful fountain filling your space with peace.
~Show Gratitude Every Day~
Waking up each day and saying “thank you” is a simple acknowledgement to divine source that you have gratitude for all that “IS” in your life. No matter what else you may or may not do to allow miracles to show up in your life , a simple thank you is all you need to begin your day in gratitude .
“Foods to Lose”
Let’s be brutally honest, after 50 you have to pay special attention to what foods you allow to pass your lips! If your went through life never having to worry about your weight, congratulations, you’re in the minority, you can probably stop reading this, but maybe you shouldn’t .…
As you age, food has a much more direct effect on your body and mental attitude than ever before.
Never having too much trouble losing weight when I was younger, as I went through menopause I found it more difficult. After menopause in my late 50’s I noticed my body was definitely changing, holding onto weight where it never had before.
Luckily, I made certain dietary changes at a young age. This made it much easier to make necessary changes as I grew older. I always tried to listen to my body and what it was saying to me. How food made me feel was always my impetus to make changes in my diet.
There are foods that we all know we shouldn’t eat but after the age of 50 , the ramifications on your health become much more evident if these foods are eaten on a daily basis;
“Typically flour is milled discarding all the essential nutrients the original grain contained. The entire wheat germ and cellulose (fiber) is removed, the heat that is generated to crush the grain into flour destroys any vitamins or minerals normally found in the grain, leaving a white powder devoid of any life. Essentially it’s dead food!
At this point they have to “enrich” it back with added vitamins and minerals. The next part is even scarier because fresh milled flour usually isn’t acceptable for consumption because of the look, feel and smell of it. The FDA has approved over 60 chemicals for manufactures to use to help these aesthetics and the shelf life of flour.”
To read more about how white flour effects your health check out this link;
Bacon, Sugar & Soda
Bacon is not a woman’s friend. About 1 in 3 adults in the U.S. suffer from arthritis and other related join pain. From my own experience I have learned certain foods exacerbate the problem and keep the vicious cycle going.
Sugar is something most of us avoid for weight loss, but sugar is the #1 enemy for aging our bodies. It leads to heart disease, kidney damage, diabetes and nerve damage.
Soda is another “food like substance” that has zero nutrients and no health benefits at all. A 12 -ounce can of soda has about 150 calories and 40 grams of carbohydrates, the same amount of carbs contained in 10 teaspoons of sugar!
“Invest In High Quality Skin Care Products”
The Top 5 ingredients to avoid
Maybe that $6.oo jar of moisturizer was good for your 25-year-old complexion but the game has changed dramatically after 50. Your skin has gone through many changes as you’ve aged. Your skin usually becomes drier, loses collagen & elastin , pores become enlarged and photo damage creates discoloration.
Investing in high quality skin care products is important to the look and feel of your skin, as well as knowing you have a far better chance to be free of toxic ingredients that can very harmful to your health with continual exposure.
Here is a list of 5 ingredients to avoid:
1) Phenoxyethanol – We’re seeing fewer chemical preservatives, also known as “parabens” on labels. Because many consumers are aware of the hazards of parabens a new preservative by the name of Phenoxyethanol or (ethylene glycol monophenyl ether) has emerged in conventional skin care as well as “certified organic ” skin care as a safer alternative.
But is it really safer?
Phenoxyethanol is used in array of products ranging from skin care to make up products. A number of studies found that this preservative shows toxic effects to the body in moderate concentrations. These toxic effects include, reproductive and developmental complications, contact dermatitis ( skin irritations) & brain and nervous system damage.
Dioxins belong to the “dirty dozen” of toxic chemicals. According to EWG’S Skin Deep Cosmetic Database, Dioxins are known endocrine disruptors strongly linked to cancer and toxic to the organ system and human development.
Dioxins are not listed on the label but can often be found in antibacterial agents such as “triclosan” PEG’S and sodium laureth sulfate.
If you’re interested in finding out more about EWG’S Skin Deep Cosmetic Database check out this link, a must have reference for anyone concerned about toxic chemicals and how the effect your overall health.
Toluene is used in many industrial substances such as glues, plastics, adhesives and paint. Read more about Toluene’s toxic effects here:
Aluminum is linked to breast cancer and some brain disorders. Aluminum is unequivocally a “neurotoxin”. It can cause skin irritations and is an endocrine disruptor.
5) Synthetic Colors
Synthetic (or chemical colors) are often added to skin care and cosmetics to make them look prettier. However they are linked to cancer causing agents which aren’t so pretty! They’re often labeled with the letters FD&C or D&C followed by a number.
Dermaplaning is not a new procedure but not many women are aware of it and not many estheticians perform the service.
Don’t confuse Dermaplaning with Dermabrasion. Dermabrasion is a medical procedure that abrades the skin down to the dermis. These 2 services are nothing alike.
The esthetician uses a scalpel and a delicate touch, they simply abrade the surface of the skin using light feathering strokes. It is a first choice for anyone who has excess vellum hair on their face. The hair often causes a buildup of dirt and oils in the follicles, so removing the hair gives you healthier looking skin. Pore size is reduced and the skin looks more youthful.
This is a great treatment for someone pregnant or nursing who wants a deep exfoliation such as Glycolic Peel but does not want to run the risk of chemicals being absorbed into the blood stream.
Don’t buy into the old wives tales you may hear, you don’t need to be concerned about the hair growing back heavier or darker after Dermaplaning. I can tell you from personal experience that Dermaplaning leaves your skin feeling smoother and more youthful looking, and it won’t break the bank!
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Written By : Alice Wilcox
June 3, 2016